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Charlotte Hell, Mistress in Cleveland, OH

1) When did you start being a Mistress/Dominatrix? 
I started in the early summer of 2014, I had a brief learning period where I traded time with myself for knowledge about each person’s favorite fetish or kink. Basically I would say, “You can have my undivided attention if you show me how to do whatever it is that excites you.” My first lesson was in anal fisting and the guy was so pleased with me and my effort  that I knew this was a field I had to be a part of. After that I had success with a couple crossdressers and started learning impact play basics from dominants in my area that  would teach me. I started taking my first professional clients in the fall of that year.

2) What pushed (or pulled!) you into this world? 
I got in for terrible reasons. I was attracted to the glamor and thought I could make fairly easy money. However, I stayed for the best reasons. With each client I began to appreciate the opportunity to know them on a very personal level and I enjoyed listening to them talk about what thrilled them while using my analytical mind to figure out the subconscious processes that guided them. So when business was slow and I wasn’t making that easy money I couldn’t help but stay in it because I was eager to know the depths of my next client. In a way, complex and unusual submissive became my fetish.

3) Introduce yourself in three paragraphs (where you are based, something about you.. etc)
I am based in Cleveland, Ohio, USA and I have been incredibly fortunate to observe and learn from so many Submissives willing to share the deepest parts of themselves with me. I am the guide and the confidant that so many modern individuals secretly crave. As I listen to each confessed fantasy, I breathe life into them and relish the privilege to be a co-creator in a world built with my enthusiastic imagination upon a foundation of my submissive’s needs and desires.
I’m something of a control freak and I think that tends to come out in my appearance. I have strong preferences towards tidiness and formal attire, though I do enjoy latex wear quite a bit. Something about fake plastic perfection really draws me in. I love discipline and exactitude and see myself as a disciplinarian. And as such I feel a deep sense of determination when I am asked to administer corrections.
While I maintain a reverent attitude towards this world, I often struggle to contain my enthusiasm. I love every scene I do and I adore the thought process behind every action and word. I’m too much of a control freak to claim a bubbly personality, but there is a hidden fountain of joy in my heart. 

What are your favorite BDSM and fetish activities? and what is the environment you prefer to play in? (dungeons, domestic settings, etc..)  
As I indicated above, I’m drawn to latex as well as Formal and professional styles. I have long suspected that my biggest fetish is myself and dressing well for my sessions always puts me in the right mood. I adore impact scenes and gravitate towards activities that provoke a visceral reaction.  As a disciplinarian I cherish the moments when clients confess to their wrongdoings and ask me to serve them just consequences, as such I am skilled in punishing a focused area such as CBT, Nipple torture and  Bastinado. I greatly enjoy roleplay because it’s adjacent to sexual fantasy. I prefer complexity to simple action, I want to experience a layered fantasy and my favorite clients are the ones that are willing to let me find those layers within them. 

For settings, I have found that I am very flexible in my preferences. My first choice is always a dungeon with elegant BDSM furniture, but I’ve found that exerting soft power in more public settings can be just as comfortable and sometimes more thrilling. 

Do you meet often with other Mistresses? Do you hang out with others in the scene? 
My area is very limited in its offering of Professional Dommes but what few of us there are, I’ve met with at least a few times. Conversely, my area is rich in talented and experienced lifestyle Dommes and I am privileged to consider them my friends. I’ve been very fortunate to have a group of women I can learn from and seek out further inspiration from. 

One of the highest compliments I ever received came from this group of lifestyle Dommes. There is a well-respected and talented Domme in my area that I’ve always regarded as something of a legend in the local lifestyle and one night last year I had taken on a last minute scene with a sub who was looking for intense impact play. I was at my best during this scene with  lots of authority, fear mongering and precise impact play. After the scene was over, this Domme I’ve always admired so much complimented me and it has meant the world to me since.

Do you have loyal returning slaves that follow a path with you?
Those are the best clients, the ones that I can build a relationship with and I’m always sure to let them know how much of a privilege it is for me to explore their fantasies with them. 

What would you recommend to newcomers to fetish and bdsm world?
Look before you leap. The BDSM world is as complex as it is glamorous and exciting. You can only serve yourself better by learning the customs before you get your hands dirty. In my area at least, submissives and dominants alike are very willing and happy to talk about their kink interests and share some of their skills. A large portion of my skill set is owed to the lifestyle Dommes who are well studied in their kinks. This world has a lot to offer, make sure you’re open enough to receive some of it.

Please list your website, social media links, etc.
And I’m on Twitter: @hel_Charlotte